FAQ

   The reaction on my blog has been overwhelming (in a good way). I have received some questions from readers and some are asking for advice. I am no expert, but I hope my own experiences and communication skills will help others. If nothing else, sometimes just knowing someone else has gone through what you're going through can provide inspiration to move on.
   Here are my answers to your emailed questions:

Whatever happened to your lunch friend with the handicap?
   My friend was a few years younger than me. After I graduated he called me every once in a while to ask how I was doing. Since then, he has graduated high school. The last time I saw him was a couple of years ago at a high school football game. He saw me and came to sit by me. We snuggled to keep warm and he was just as sweet as he was in school.

Whatever happened to the bully who asked you if your outfit was what you were wearing to your mother's funeral?
   That particular bully has tried to add me on Facebook numerous times, but I have ignored those requests time and time again. I am a strong believer in forgiveness, and without her asking for my forgiveness I have prayed for her and forgiven her completely. I will never forget the pain she put me through in high school. It has affected me even 15 years later. I hope the best for her and I hope she never has to deal with the degree of depression, rejection and hate I experienced at her hands. With that said, she is not my friend and I am not interested in adding fake friends on Facebook. I feel like that would make me vulnerable and put me in a position to say and think things I should not say or even think.
   I do believe her insecurities prompted her to treat me so badly. She did not start the bullying. Another girl did, and since she was not very pretty, overweight and nerdy I think she clung to any type of acceptance she could find. I think ganging up on me made all of the "mean girls" feel better about themselves. As for the girl who started the bullying: after years of analyzing why I was the victim of the vicious attacks, I have come to the conclusion that it all started because I was "dating" a boy in their grade. They were all a year older than me and he was one of the few good looking guys in the entire school. At that age, boys are all girls think about, so I think those girls were just doing the natural thing and being protective of what they considered their territory.
   In any case, it is God's job to deal with their hearts and at this point in my life I am proud of myself and I have become a stronger person because of my experiences. If I was asked for advice from someone being bullied, I would just want to tell them that everything they are going through seems like such a big deal now, but in just a few years they will look back and it won't be that big of a deal anymore.

How often should you start dating again after a breakup?
   This varies from person to person and situation to situation. Some people are ready to instantly jump into the dating world again and they are able to succeed. Others think they are ready and they end up crashing and burning. The key is to do what you feel comfortable doing. Also, remember it is unfair to begin a new serious relationship with someone if you are not 100% over your ex. You could bring baggage from your previous relationship into your next relationship and that is a disaster waiting to happen.
   The first two times my ex and I broke up I started dating immediately afterwards. The last time was not so easy. I knew I wasn't ready and even now I know I am not ready for a serious commitment.

What if your ex goes to college with you and you have to see her every day?
   There are so many different ways to deal with this situation. In my opinion, a guy who has been broken up with should remember the girl is no longer interested in being in a relationship with him. The worse thing a guy can do is act desperate and needy. It's so unattractive when a man acts like a little boy that had his toy car taken away. Get out there and make new friends. Act happy! You will find the more you act and interact the happier you will be. Remember there is someone else that will appreciate your kind heart and that person will be more understanding of you.

What do you think are the top 3 most important aspects of a love-relationship?
1) God
2) Honesty
3) Communication
    ^In that order^

How do I start my own blog?
   All you have to do is go to blogger.com and setup your own account. It gives you instructions on how to build your page and it's pretty self-explanatory.